Manifesting Global Travel & An Unconventional, AMAZING Life with Crystal Haitsma

[00:00:00] Jamie: Hi, everyone. I have a special guest for you today. I have Crystal Haitzma, who is the parenting coach, who is a manifester, who is the queen of just living an extraordinary life and like going for big things and that’s why I wanted to bring Crystal on. Crystal has been a client of mine for a little over a year, was in the money manifestation movement and it was so fun witnessing her journey manifesting, witnessing her growth and just seeing what she went for.

[00:00:38] Jamie: So I wanted to have Crystal on today to talk more about that and this. amazing thing that you had manifested and came to life last year. So we’re going to dive into that and then we’re just going to talk all things manifestation because we both love it. So welcome Crystal. Thank you for being here.

[00:00:57] Jamie: Thank 

[00:00:58] Crystal: you. Yeah. I’m [00:01:00] excited to be here because I feel like I’m the queen of manifesting weird things. Other people might not actually want to manifest for themselves. They’re like, Oh, that’s weird. Um, but I love, um, yeah, I just love everything that I’ve been able to manifest so far. 

[00:01:16] Jamie: So good. All good. We can edit.

[00:01:19] Crystal: Okay. Um, I love everything that I’ve been able to manifest so far. And I love what I love about manifestation is that it can be so like specific. Like I think so many times you coached me on this, where I was like, but I should want this. Like I should want this normal life with full time hours with whatever, like, I don’t know, but I never wanted that.

[00:01:38] Crystal: And so often it was like coaching me on my goals so that I would allow myself to just be like, what do I actually want? Because whatever I actually want is the thing that lights me up. But I was going for this like, I don’t know, more stagnant life that I felt like I should, I should want because everybody else wants it.

[00:01:56] Crystal: So, um, anyways, now I don’t, I don’t do that. 

[00:01:59] Jamie: I [00:02:00] love it. And I think that’s probably very, I mean, not I think, I know that’s so common for us to feel like we need to fit into a box and kind of manifest. That box of like, what’s going to make us socially acceptable and what’s going to make our parents the most proud of us or society, uh, look up to us the most.

[00:02:19] Jamie: But really that doesn’t actually feel authentic to us. You know, and it’s like, what we actually want is something different. So, are you open to sharing? What are some of the things that are maybe non traditional or like some of the desires that you’ve tapped into that maybe others would think, you know, things about it.

[00:02:37] Crystal: Yeah, it’s interesting because I feel like my whole life has been out of the box. And like, It, whenever I try to fit myself in the box and I’m feeling like stuck and low energy and whatever. And then I’m like, wait a second, I’m in the box again. Like, what am I doing here? Why am I feeling this way? And so I think it started like years and years and years ago when I first decided to homeschool my kids and they were pretty little.

[00:02:56] Crystal: And I was just like, you know, I’m just going to try for like a couple of years. And I literally, I [00:03:00] knew zero people that homeschooled. I know knew zero about it. My dad was a public school teacher and he kind of looked at me like, why are you doing this? And like, what is happening? Anyways, but I just like, I didn’t like waking up really early.

[00:03:12] Crystal: I didn’t like having to always make sure that there was lunch food, and like, having to like, be on call to like, drop them stuff off if they forgot things, or like, That rigid schedule and routine just was not for me and after like a year of doing it I think I was pregnant with my third and I just remember thinking like after I have this third little boy Like I’m not gonna want to just like be in this rigid structure.

[00:03:34] Crystal: So I was like, you know We’ll just try it for a couple of years. I never planned on homeschooling forever. But anyways, here I am. My son just graduated

[00:03:45] Crystal: My son just graduated high school and, um, we’ve been homeschooling now for 11 years. So we kind of accidentally homeschooled the entire way through, um, and that was kind of my first against the grain, like nobody else is doing this, but I’m doing it [00:04:00] way. And then that kind of ballooned into, I did do parenting in a very different way.

[00:04:04] Crystal: So my parenting coaching is very different. And, um, anytime I feel like I’m doing things in The way that everybody kind of does them. I noticed that I feel in that stuck energy. So I hadn’t figured that out for business or manifestation yet. So I had this idea. I remember at one point you coached me on like this goal that I had, like some money goal that I had that month or that year for business.

[00:04:26] Crystal: And you were like, how does it feel? And I was like, terrible. You’re like, well, what do you want to have your goal be? And I was like, I don’t even want to have a money goal. And you’re like, well then why do you? And I’m like, because you’re supposed to when you have a business. And as soon as I dropped that, I had decided to make this like time goal.

[00:04:42] Crystal: And I was like, Oh, I actually think it sounds more fun to like work less. And so I made this time goal to like only work 15 hours a week and I got there from January to June and then I decided it would be fun to do like 10 to 12 hours a week and I got there by September and The next January when my husband was doing our financials [00:05:00] and he was like how much money do you you know?

[00:05:01] Crystal: Do you think you made because I never know It was almost exactly to the dollar like double of my previous year What I made, like this boring money goal that somebody told me I should make. 

[00:05:13] Jamie: Oh my gosh. So what were you working the previous year? How many hours? Cause you said you went down to 15, down to 10.

[00:05:19] Jamie: What was, what was the year before? 

[00:05:21] Crystal: I’m, I don’t know for sure because of like how much time Instagram was taking. I’m sure it was more than that. But like, I would say like 25 ish hours, like 20 to 25 hours. Um, plus I’m sure there was some like leaking in of like Instagram time that like, who knows if it’s business time or not time.

[00:05:36] Crystal: Um, but it definitely felt like too much. Cause I, at this time I had four kids. I probably didn’t mention that in my bio, but I have four children. So this time they’re all pretty little and I’m feeling, and I’m homeschooling them all and running a business. So I’m feeling very, just like. There’s a lot happening.

[00:05:51] Crystal: And that was the thing in my life that felt like it needed to shift was like, I really want more of this balance. I want to have more kind of boundaries around my work hours and I would [00:06:00] like them to be less. And the two years previous to that, my goal had been 100 K because we both certified from the same school.

[00:06:08] Crystal: And that’s kind of like what the goal is, like, 

[00:06:10] Jamie: totally. 

[00:06:11] Crystal: Everybody just gives it to you and they’re like, make a hundred K in your first year. Well, I’m a stay at home mom with no background, um, in entrepreneurship or anything. I was a stay at home mom for 12 years before this. And I gave myself the school that everybody says you should have.

[00:06:25] Crystal: And then I beat myself up that whole first year. So I made 50 K Canadian in my first year. I remember. I remember hating it the whole way. I felt so bad at the end of the year. I felt like it was my fault. Like I should have just believed more. I should have like thought my way to it more or something. Um, second year, same thing, make almost like exactly the same amount.

[00:06:48] Crystal: Um, I think it was like between 40 and 50 K. And then that third year, I think it was like 85 or 87 or something. And that was when I made the time goal and I was like, that’s interesting. [00:07:00] Um, yes. And I think since then it’s been this revelation of like, for me, manifestation and intuition are like how I run my business and my life now, everything in my business and my life.

[00:07:11] Crystal: And whenever I’m feeling stuck energy for anything, I shift out of that. And I’m like, okay, wait a second. This is not working for me. Like. What do I need to do to change? Um, and I change my energy often through changing like my goal through allowing myself to. Manifest whatever I want. And so that was like, that was a pretty significant, like you could see that the outcome was way better in working less.

[00:07:34] Crystal: Um, and then I think it was the next year that I just like, didn’t want to goal at all. Again, I think I remember you coached me on this and I’m like, I don’t even think I want to go. Like, I don’t want it to work towards anything. And it was perfect because I did a lot of rest, did a lot of play, did a lot of hanging out with my kids by then.

[00:07:51] Crystal: My husband also started a business from home, which also came from me manifesting that. Cause I, I always wanted this. Like, I don’t know why, but I always wanted my [00:08:00] husband home.

[00:08:06] Crystal: I remember when he first got his first job out of university and he was at work like nine to five every day. And I’m at home with the kids every day. And I remember day one, no joke sitting there thinking, is this life? Like, is this just what life is going to be like? Like we get two weeks of vacation that we have to book out 12 months in advance.

[00:08:23] Crystal: And I am at home with these tiny little like kids and never sleeping. And like, he’s at work and I don’t get to see him. And I was like, that’s not cool. Like I married him because I want to spend time with him. Totally. And, um, I really like my husband, like, a lot. So, that’s pretty cool. That just did not, that’s pretty cool.

[00:08:42] Crystal: So, that just did not jive with me. And I remember, like, telling my friends about it, and they all just kind of laughed. Like, well, that’s what life is, dude. Like, suck it up. And I was like, is it though? Like, and so I just kind of was resigned to this, like, I guess this is our life. And like, I tried to do some out of the box things, which I was able to do for sure, but it [00:09:00] definitely felt like I’d been given this life that like, that’s just what everybody does.

[00:09:03] Crystal: And like, there is no other alternative. And, um, anyways, manifested that now he’s at home working with me, he runs his own business and we spend like so much time together, as much time together as we want, probably too much time together now. And, um, it’s lovely, but, um, so this last, the, my, I guess my last year, so in January, I decided not to set a goal.

[00:09:24] Crystal: And we were traveling, um, to Hawaii. Well, we’re in Hawaii. We’re trying to decide like, what are we going to do next? We were in a rental that was coming up and, um, the lease was ending and they were moving back because we were kind of just moving around at anyways. We have also a weird travel life where we kind of just move wherever we want.

[00:09:41] Crystal: So we were living in this place temporarily and, um, they were coming home in the fall and I went back to my logical brain again. I don’t know why I always do this. Cause I have to learn this lesson a hundred times. But I’m like writing down, I printed off a map of North America and I like wrote down like all the things I wanted in it.

[00:09:57] Crystal: And like, I want a city like this. And I tried to go to that [00:10:00] logical thinking space of like, I will be able to figure this out logically to figure out where we should go next. And it felt terrible. And I was asking everybody else what they thought, which is also a sign that I’m not doing not on the right path.

[00:10:14] Crystal: Um, and then all of a sudden this thought came in, like, Your whole life you’ve wanted to travel full time around the world. That’s a weird goal that I’ve had forever. Not even a goal, just like this dream of like, one day I’ll do this. And I knew it would happen one day, but I didn’t know how. And in that moment, I was like, This is the how, like I kept waiting till like I was making more money or I had more time and my kids were older.

[00:10:35] Crystal: So it’d be easier to travel with them. And it, I think what really hit was like that I realized it was my oldest son’s probable last year home. And I was like, wait, it would really suck for us to do it like without him. So my youngest was, um, seven and my oldest at this time was 16. So anyway, so we decided to travel the world and that was my new manifestation was like, I’m going to go travel.

[00:10:57] Crystal: I’m gonna go fly around the whole world. We [00:11:00] circumnavigated the globe with our family, and so I didn’t have a business goal. I had no, I didn’t even really set any intentions in my business that year. Um, this is just last year. This was just last year. So we just got home in, just completed, 

[00:11:14] Jamie: right? Yeah. 

[00:11:14] Crystal: Yes, yes.

[00:11:16] Crystal: This trip just completed. So we left. So that was, we left in September. So we started talking about it in the spring. By June, we decided we were gonna do it by September we left. And didn’t have a lot planned, just had the first couple of months planned. And again, I had to learn like to get out of my logical brain when it came to travel planning, because that also did not work until I was like, I’m just going to do it intuitively and just go wherever you want.

[00:11:39] Crystal: Um, so we went and traveled, we flew around the world and we got home in May. And, um, then we manifested a house. So those are all a lot of different manifestation stories, but I’m 

[00:11:53] Jamie: in love. It’s amazing. Crystal. Isn’t it fun to look back and like reflect on what you have manifested [00:12:00] just in the past couple of years, like as you’ve leaned into this and I have so many questions for you and so much to unpack within this, cause there’s just.

[00:12:10] Jamie: I don’t know. I love this. And I, what I’m curious first is how do you like, since you can tell the difference, you’re like, I used to try to manifest things that were like you said, in a box, right? Like what is logical, what other people want for me or what feels right. Or, you know what I mean? Like you, you, so you have that contrast.

[00:12:33] Jamie: You can see the difference between when you’re trying to manifest something that you don’t actually want, or like that a hundred K goal, for example, but you’re like, I don’t. That doesn’t light me up, but it seems to me the way to go. So you’re trying to manifest it versus when you lean into true desire and really ask yourself, what is it that I want?

[00:12:51] Jamie: And you get crystal clear on what you actually want. What does your soul want to experience or do or create? How does it feel [00:13:00] different? And what is the difference in experience? Experience manifesting each of those 

[00:13:05] Crystal: ways.

[00:13:09] Crystal: Oh, it froze for a second. 

[00:13:11] Jamie: Oh, you know what if it freezes, um the screen It’s okay. It’ll come out fine. But as long as the audio is good. Yeah, 

[00:13:19] Crystal: okay So I think the difference for me is like in my energy is in like how I feel inside and when I’m feeling more In the box, I’m feeling this energy that feels like constricting.

[00:13:31] Crystal: I’m also looking around For the answer from someone else and looking to see what other people are doing. Like I did so much like job shadowing of other people, right? Like checking out, like, what are they doing and what’s their business like? And like, how can I learn from them and whatever. And just like consuming all of this stuff and it felt really like icky inside, like it felt like, well, for one, it felt like it was always failing and that I was never going to be enough.

[00:13:59] Crystal: Not only was [00:14:00] it, I was never going to achieve it, but also like, I would never be enough. Um, And one of the things I’ve definitely learned is, like, the amount that I’m able to manifest is the amount that my self worth is at. Like, if I am not open to feeling like my, I’m worthy enough to receive, then I’m not going to be, be able to receive that more that I want.

[00:14:27] Crystal: And when I set some sort of an intention, I don’t even like the word goal. Now I like try not to use it, but like when I set an intention for like what it is that I’m like working towards next, when I allow myself just to have it be whatever it wants to be, it feels fun. It feels light and it feels expansive.

[00:14:45] Crystal: Like it feels like it’s like moving from me and up and out. And I’ve really got familiar with those two different. Feelings in my body. And so when I’m back into the stuck mode, I know like I either need to get coached or I need to go meditate, or I need to [00:15:00] like go for a walk in nature. Or like I know that there’s just some energy that I need to shift in my body.

[00:15:05] Crystal: I have an energy worker sometimes I go work with, but I’m like, I know what I need to do in those moments to kind of shift out of that feeling and back into how I want to feel. And, um, when I’m feeling this more like open, expansive energy, then. Like random ideas come to me. Like that’s when I decided to do like a women’s retreat.

[00:15:24] Crystal: And I was like, but you’ve never done a retreat before. And like, you don’t have a ton of clients yet. And like, nobody does retreats in this area. And, um, or like when I decided to go travel around the world too, like I’m sure that’s probably not an intention that a lot of people want for their whole family.

[00:15:39] Crystal: Um, but I’ve always wanted it. And, um, Anyways, so it’s interesting though, too, because once you’re doing it, you’re like, Ooh, life is still 50 50 here. 

[00:15:51] Jamie: Yes, yes, we got to talk more about that, too. 

[00:15:55] Crystal: Because it was not just rainbows and daisies. It’s actually really hard to travel with four [00:16:00] kids full time.

[00:16:00] Crystal: Surprise, surprise. 

[00:16:01] Jamie: Yeah. 

[00:16:02] Crystal: Um, so I feel like it expanded my experience. It was almost like, it was like both of the 50 more more like I felt each of the 50, 50 more. Um, so yeah. So I think it’s like just noticing that energy within my body and what it feels like and helping me find something to kind of shift back and allowing myself not to set an intention if an intention doesn’t come.

[00:16:24] Crystal: Like, not trying to find something for my brain to be like, wait, you should be setting something. And so, um, recently it’s been like looking for a house. And, um. Anyways. And in that also, like, it’s just been interesting that my brain, my brain wants to go back into logical mode, but I noticed that energy and immediately shifted it out and I would immediately shift it out again and did definitely came and got coached, meditated a lot.

[00:16:47] Crystal: But every time I felt that stuck energy, I would shift it out and looking for houses has been so flowy. Like it’s just been so. Easy. And, um, I feel so unattached. Like I would go look through a [00:17:00] house and I’d be like, okay, yeah, I kind of like this one. Let’s put an offer. It wouldn’t work out. And I’d just be like, all right, that one didn’t work out.

[00:17:04] Crystal: And we’d like, try it again. And it just, I think the same thing is in my business. Like when I’m in that flowy energy, it’s like, try this. Oh, that didn’t work. Okay. Let’s try this instead of, I think when we attach it, what we’re really attaching is the need for external validation. Like then I will feel enough once I achieve this goal or whatever.

[00:17:22] Crystal: So for me, it’s like constantly trying to pull myself. Back into the energy of not being so attached to the outcome and more into this like flowy Trusting easeful state where everything just works out magically. So 

[00:17:38] Jamie: well, and I love how you touched on The fact that you have it’s like, you know where to go when you are in that energy I’ve stuck in logic and feeling like you’re trying to Get into the how or, you know, like, like it just feels bad.

[00:17:56] Jamie: You can now identify that [00:18:00] having the contrast of knowing, Oh, I know how it feels when it’s flowy. And I also know how it feels when it’s not. And so I love that. You’re like, Oh, these are the five things that I go to. I either come get coached. I do. Hypnosis, I’ll do a meditation, right? Like you have your tool belt and you know, what helps you move your energy.

[00:18:19] Jamie: And I think that’s huge. And I think it’s something for everyone listening to consider is like, how do you know when you’re not in alignment or how do you know when you’re not in flow and what are your tools, right? And like getting clear on that makes all the difference because it helps us move through it so much faster when we’re able to receive that kind of support.

[00:18:41] Crystal: Well, and also our brain, like when we’re in that stuck energy, our brain wants to tell us what the problem is and why, like, it’s going to town on like, well, the problem is actually that like, you’re never going to succeed in business or like, you’re never going to become a better parent or like, you’re never going to achieve whatever the goal is.

[00:18:56] Crystal: And, um, it feels very true and it feels very [00:19:00] heavy and it feels like important. Like we need to listen to it. And now I’m like, wait a second. Like, one of my favorite quotes that I read from Young Pueblo’s book, Lighter, was um, I try not to believe the thoughts about myself when I’m feeling big emotions.

[00:19:15] Crystal: Like, the thoughts about myself, the thoughts about my life, the thoughts about my potential, like, when I’m feeling that heavy emotion, like, I just know that I don’t need to believe these ones today. Like we can come back to them and like, maybe they’ll have something important to say tomorrow. Um, which is also been helpful if you are a female entrepreneur in, um, cycle tracking.

[00:19:33] Crystal: So I track my cycle and five days before my bleed, um, are always the big emotions, the like, You know, this is never going to work. And then I’m like, Oh, wait, this is the part where we just wait five days. And then I wait five days and I feel better. 

[00:19:44] Jamie: I think I’m like believing zero thoughts today. Literally zero thoughts.

[00:19:50] Jamie: Here comes the heavy cloud. Like we’re rolling with it. 

[00:19:55] Crystal: And it comes every month and it happens every time. Um, so for [00:20:00] me, it is just noticing, like, I don’t have to make this mean anything. I don’t have to make this energy that I’m feeling in my body mean some big, you know, exponential thing. Because sometimes we go into thought work and belief work when we’re feeling those big emotions.

[00:20:12] Crystal: And it’s not actually effective, because when we feel big emotions, our prefrontal cortex, like, shuts down. The learning center of our brain is no longer there. Our logical thinking brain is no longer there. And so, um, and I know this about my kids. It’s so easy. Like, when they’re having a huge emotional fit.

[00:20:27] Crystal: This just happened last week. I’m on my way to Las Vegas for an event. My daughter’s freaking out, and I just know whatever she’s saying in that moment, like, she doesn’t even mean. Like, I don’t even believe her in that moment. Cause I know like, if she says she hates me or she’s mad or I’m never going to leave her again.

[00:20:40] Crystal: Or why do I was like, I just know what she’s really saying is like, she’s just feeling mad. She’s just feeling sad. Like she just needs to be comforted and to be heard. And I’m like, Oh, so we’re all just little kids. I get it. It’s just like noticing like, Oh, I’m feeling big emotions. I don’t need to believe my beliefs right now.

[00:20:58] Crystal: I’m going to have some big [00:21:00] thoughts and big beliefs about myself and about my potential. But I can just. Calm myself down, go into my body, calm my nervous system. 

[00:21:08] Jamie: Yes. And I love this. And I just want to reflect to listeners, like if just as, as we’re both talking about, you know, manifesting from two different places, manifesting from true desire versus manifesting, like what we think we need, you know, I think for a lot of people, when I’ve seen this, I’ve seen this within myself, but when it feels like, You cannot manifest this thing.

[00:21:36] Jamie: You just keep hitting block after block, or it feels terrible, or you’re really hard on yourself if it doesn’t come to life, you’re probably like, I think it’s such an opportunity to check in with yourself and say, like, is this what I actually want? Like, where is this coming from? And I, I call it manifesting from my ego.

[00:21:53] Jamie: Am I manifesting from my ego thinking like, Oh, my ego is going to be boosted if I have this thing. And so. Somewhere or another I’ll be looked [00:22:00] up to, or society will think this is right, or my family, whatever it is, right? Friends, or Followers, right? So I think that’s another thing to like check in on. It’s like, do you feel like you’re just hitting up against a wall nonstop?

[00:22:14] Jamie: You might want to check in on the desire. Like, does it actually feel alive? Do you feel lit up by it? Cause if not, why not ask yourself, what would actually light me up? And it’s like, look what that has led to for you, Crystal. 

[00:22:27] Crystal: Well, you’ve coached me on that same thing. You’ve asked me so many times, like, do you want this?

[00:22:32] Crystal: And I’d be like, true. Wait a second. Do I want this? Like, what do I want? Um, I think that’s the best question to ask yourself is like, what do I actually want? Like if there was no like external modality of success, like we decided Once upon a time that success was like wealth and followers and prestige and promotions and all of that If like that’s not all true, which logically we know it’s not true, but subconsciously we sometimes feel that way But if that really isn’t true and like if anything is possible, like what do I actually [00:23:00] want?

[00:23:00] Jamie: Yeah 

[00:23:00] Crystal: Um, so it was travel it was world travel and then at the end of our travel spree So our travels were really hard, PS, careful what you manifest, um, it was really difficult, but as we were traveling, I was like, what do I want? And I realized that there was actually some stability that I did want. I wanted the house.

[00:23:19] Crystal: And I wanted to have a place to like put the beautiful art that I was seeing around the world that I wasn’t buying because I’m like, where am I going to put this? I don’t even like own a house. We hadn’t owned a house in a while. We were just kind of moving from place to place. So, um, I recognize that by giving myself the manifestation that I wanted or that I thought I really did want of traveling.

[00:23:40] Crystal: It was beautiful. And I learned a lot from it, but I also, what I learned most was like, I actually do want something more grounded and more steady and more stable. And, um, so then that’s what I manifested next. And because I would got so good at manifestation, I knew when I was not in that energy and when I was, and so I felt like the whole house [00:24:00] process has been that way also.

[00:24:02] Crystal: And so I just keep going to like, where. Where’s the lighting me up? What do I want to do next? 

[00:24:07] Jamie: Yeah, I love that. And I think it’s also like, our manifest our manifestations often lead us to the next manifestation. So, it’s probably within the contrast that you found that desire to want to stay grounded.

[00:24:19] Jamie: But my hunch is, had you not gone on that trip, You probably wouldn’t have said I want to be grounded, right? Oh, for sure. I wouldn’t have it like now, you know, because of the contrast and because you got to experience that and half the time, I feel like the reason our soul has these desires is because they’re meant to grow us, right?

[00:24:39] Jamie: So yeah, life is still 50, 50. It was still hard, but I would pick the hard of traveling around the world, experiencing something with my entire family and growing through that. Versus The 50 50 of like, Oh, I can’t do that. I’m just going to stay here, right? There are still going to be [00:25:00] 50 50, but there’s not a lot of evolution that comes from that.

[00:25:03] Jamie: So, you know, sometimes I think those things, they feel harder, almost like when we step into newness, when we step into these big manifestations. And I know that for sure. Like I’ve been going through a lot of expansion and. It’s growing pains and they feel bigger. Like you said, when you were traveling, you’re like the highs felt higher, the lows felt lower.

[00:25:23] Jamie: And it makes sense because it’s new. It’s not the same 50 50 that you’re used to. So I think half the time it’s meant for us to blossom. Like, is it really for us to experience it? Yes. On some levels, but also our soul wants to keep evolving. So that’s why we keep going for new things versus just. Like staying in a box, you know, 

[00:25:46] Crystal: and I do think like I learned like the things that I learned while I was traveling Were one like when my nervous system is dysregulated I can like feel what that feels like now and I know I just need to like get into my body and like move and hypnotherapy and [00:26:00] whatever else to help move that energy and so Knowing, be getting so familiar with how that felt through feeling dysregulated almost constantly for the first two months really helped me understand that key of it.

[00:26:13] Crystal: And then also like, just knowing, like you can literally do anything through manifestation and intuition. Cause I was like, Well, you can’t do travel like you have to plan. You have to have an itinerary. You have to book flights. Like it doesn’t happen that way. Like everybody’s like, you know, you have to book flight six months out or 12 months out or whatever.

[00:26:29] Crystal: So as I’m planning intensely the first couple of months and hating every minute of it, then I was like, by December, I was like, wait a second. Like, what if we just did it more flowy? So I would literally, I just pick an area like. Of the globe and be like maybe here and then like an area of that like a city and then I would kind of pick within that city and lo and behold it worked out like magically, right?

[00:26:50] Crystal: I just spent instead of 20 hours of travel planning, I’m spending one, maybe two hours of travel planning because I just felt into the city. Where I wanted to [00:27:00] go next instead of logically trying to figure it out. And so then from January to May, that part of it was a lot more flowy. Um, and I enjoyed travel more in those moments, but it was still, it was still really hard, but I do think the hard came from, like you said, like, I think it was purposeful.

[00:27:18] Crystal: I think it showed me like. What I actually want because I actually thought we’d go on this travel adventure and I would convince my husband that we should do This full time for the rest of our lives. Yeah, like we should never own a house and we should travel permanently forever full time and Halfway through he was like, what do you think about that now?

[00:27:35] Crystal: And I was like, nope Nope, I’m, I was surprised. I really thought I would just want to do it forever. So now I have all these new ways and ideas going in my mind about how that’s going to happen and how we’ll still be able to travel, but now we’re going to own houses around the world that we can travel back and forth to.

[00:27:52] Crystal: Oh 

[00:27:52] Jamie: my God. I love it. 

[00:27:53] Crystal: So that’s my new manifestation. I want to buy five houses and I want to just. Own houses and own air. You 

[00:27:59] Jamie: [00:28:00] told me that I think when we first met, you were like, you know, I do this coaching, but I really want to do something with renovating with houses. Like I I’m recalling this back, you know, a year and a half ago, I remember this conversation and I’m like, do it.

[00:28:16] Crystal: Oh my goodness. And has it been, it’s been so much fun. Like. The house, even the house was definitely a manifestation. Like we, all of these offers fell through and instead of being like upset about them, I was just like, Oh, well the universe was just saying that that wasn’t the one. So cool. Like let’s, you know, let’s wait.

[00:28:31] Crystal: And I was so unattached to it that I was even like, Oh, if it doesn’t work out, like we’ll go do something else. We’ll go travel again or whatever. So when this one did work out. I’ve just been, I’ve had so much energy to do it with. So we’re basically we’re building a new house inside this old 1970s house that we purchased and designing it and ideas and like everything like has just been so fun and so energizing.

[00:28:55] Crystal: And I’m like, that’s what I want to do. Like, I just want to, I just want to go do houses anyway. [00:29:00] 

[00:29:00] Jamie: Right. You have to follow what lights up. Are you a generator or manifesting generator? Manifesting 

[00:29:04] Crystal: generator. Okay. Yeah. 

[00:29:06] Jamie: So it totally goes with your design too, of like following what lights you up. And with the manifesting generator, it’s doing multiple things.

[00:29:13] Jamie: It’s not just like one thing, right? Totally. It’s following all of your desires. It’s following all of the things that. Light your soul up. And that’s how you are going to be the most successful and manifest the life of your dreams is by following that design. It’s so. 

[00:29:28] Crystal: And I, so I will talk a minute about human design because it has changed my life.

[00:29:32] Crystal: Um, mine is wait for the invitation. Like my strategy is wait for the invitation, which I do. Didn’t like finding out about it. Cause I’m like, no, I’m going to go make things happen. Um, but when I tried applying for contract positions in the past as a coach, I’ve always like been like, Oh, this one will make logical sense.

[00:29:47] Crystal: Right. I’ll apply here. And I do think deep down, like I didn’t actually want them because I just was following it from that logical thing. Anyway. So fast forward, fast forward, I’m traveling and I had a couple of people on my podcast. Both [00:30:00] of them offered me jobs and I literally did not apply. There was no application.

[00:30:04] Crystal: There was no. So now I have these like two contracting coaching positions that have been so fun. Um, I’m coaching couples on like relationships. I’m coaching women on anxiety. I started doing, um, hypnotherapy. Now I run women’s retreats. I do intuitive life and business coaching. So every, every session is different.

[00:30:21] Crystal: Like it’s, Every single thing is different and I love it so much more than if I was sitting in like, well, I’m going to parent coach all day for eight hours. Like that wouldn’t feel as good as how I’m doing it now. And same with the houses. Like I’m going back at the end of today to go renovate for the rest of the week.

[00:30:37] Crystal: And I like, can’t wait. Like, I can’t wait to be like, Oh, what am I going to pick out next? And I’m going to go paint the next floor. And like, anyways, 

[00:30:43] Jamie: I 

[00:30:44] Crystal: just think understanding your human design and like how you Respond. And then also the other important piece too, is like how you make your decisions. And mine is like a very gut instinct, um, sacral, I’m a sacral manifesting generator.

[00:30:58] Crystal: And, um, [00:31:00] so when I feel that way, I like, I kind of initially know the response and then I go to my logical brain. I’m like, no, no, no, it should make sense. And anyways, basically my entire life story is like, don’t do the thing that makes sense. Yeah. 

[00:31:12] Jamie: Totally. Totally. A hundred percent. This is. So awesome. So I, I, what I think listeners are probably asking or probably thinking is, Oh, I would love to do that.

[00:31:23] Jamie: Like, that sounds amazing. But Crystal, you must be totally loaded. You must be a multimillionaire in order to go and like, you know, be traveling around the world with four kids and your husband, you know, for almost a full year and like manifest a home, right? Like, But tell us, 

[00:31:47] Crystal: tell us how, how not that is with you.

[00:31:50] Crystal: Yes. That is so funny because people do think that like often people are just like, wow, like wouldn’t that be nice? Like, no, no, no, that is not how we travel. In fact, 

[00:31:58] Jamie: wait until once [00:32:00] I get to Italy, then I could think about, then I can 

[00:32:02] Crystal: think about doing it. In fact, so much so that like my kids were on a flight the other day and they were like, Oh my goodness, there’s, there’s movie screens on this airplane.

[00:32:12] Crystal: But like, Look at all the space we have in front of our feet and like, yeah, and people around us were kind of like staring at us and I’m like, we don’t really, we only travel budget airlines. So anyway, so I could say all of the travel hacks that we did, but essentially we tried to do it as low cost as possible and we were still working while we were traveling.

[00:32:31] Crystal: Um, we’re also affiliates for a company called Kajabi. And so we have some passive income that comes in as well every month. And so we do have a little bit of other things happening. So we we’re still making money for sure. Um, but we are not even sort of like loaded financially. We’re very loaded in like.

[00:32:47] Crystal: Energetic wealth and abundance, but, um, financially we’re really not. And so we didn’t have a ton of money set aside to do it. Um, but we did have some savings and then we, um, I would go on to like Google flight tracker and I [00:33:00] would, you can type in everywhere. So I type in like, you know, we’re in Indonesia and I typed in everywhere and it would show me where to go.

[00:33:06] Crystal: And so a lot of times I’d be like, oh, well, it’s a 20 flight to Singapore. So that’s where we’re going next. And like, that’s where we’d go. Yeah. So we definitely tried to do it as low cost as possible. We were still working during it, but I will say like, I don’t even know. I honestly don’t even know how much money we probably made, but like, I’m guessing like combined while we were traveling for that whole, like January to December year, we probably only made like a hundred thousand.

[00:33:32] Crystal: Total, like Canadian, which is like nothing American anyways, like it was not a lot, but we just through savings and through, you know, kind of doing budget travel and stuff, we just made it work. Um, so I definitely think like part of my brain was like, no, no, no, you have to wait until it logically makes sense.

[00:33:50] Crystal: And that was what was stopping me from doing it. But like it worked, we spent more money than we thought we were going to, but it was fine. Like we still were able to make it happen. Um, but [00:34:00] I am glad that I didn’t let that stop me. Like the logical part of my brain that was like, no, you have to make like 500, 000 a year.

[00:34:06] Crystal: And then once you make that, then you can go travel full time. Um, I’m so glad I didn’t listen for one. Cause like my son wouldn’t even come with us. He would have been off at college. 

[00:34:17] Jamie: Totally. And on top of that, I think that thought pattern doesn’t ever go away. So you could get to 500 K and you’d be like, well, once I’m making a million, like that, I have to wait mentality.

[00:34:29] Jamie: Will stay with us forever. It, it never quite feels comfortable to do it. Right. It’s like, but you leaned into courage. So what is it that allows you to just take the leap even though like, I think people can see that you’re very surrendered. Like you just go for the things that you want, even if it doesn’t make completely logical sense and even the way that you.

[00:34:52] Jamie: didn’t have this whole trip planned and you just went one place to the other. What allows you, like, what is the [00:35:00] faith that you have or the beliefs that you have? I want to dig into that a little bit because I think for some people they would be terrified of going for that, yet they absolutely could. 

[00:35:13] Crystal: I think it’s the, so we have these two different parts of ourselves, and you’ve mentioned it, like the ego self, like, wants control.

[00:35:19] Crystal: And the other part of ourself, which I call now the true self, and the true being of who I am, is actually very trusting, and very surrendering, and very, and like, knows that like, Everything will work out, like, even if it’s hard, like, we will figure it out. And I could start to feel that within myself. Like I felt this control of like, no, no, no, no.

[00:35:37] Crystal: We have to plan the whole entire thing and every single minute of every day. And what, and like know all the things. But then I also know, knew how this other. Part of me felt and I really tried to shift out of it and I recently read a quote that said Fear means that it’s something you really want to do Like if you’re afraid about it, like there’s a reason that the fear is there it’s because it’s like showing you your path 

[00:35:59] Jamie: Yeah 

[00:35:59] Crystal: And so for [00:36:00] me, I try to just again notice that energy of like when I’m in the stuck what I’m in this fear How can I like shift the energy in my body?

[00:36:07] Crystal: Because when I shift it, for me, I have a belief in God, and that feels intrinsically tied to my belief in myself. Like, I have this, just the same belief in myself, and when I shift into that true self space, I just believe that I’m held. And then I’m taken care of always, no matter what. And so we would go into some pretty crazy travel situations that like would probably freak a lot of people out.

[00:36:32] Crystal: And I’m trying to remind myself, like, okay, wait a second. Like we have always been okay in the past and like, we will be okay. And so even with money, like, cause every month I’m like, wait, we’re not working a lot this month. Like, are we okay? I like check in with my husband or whatever. I’m like, do we need to, you know, pause and kind of work more?

[00:36:51] Crystal: And he was like, no, it’s fine. Like we’re, you know, we’re going to be okay. But it was always, it was never the amount of money that helped me feel better. It was always [00:37:00] like, it’s always the feeling that we’re looking for. And so I can have that feeling. No matter what is happening. And even with houses, like I got home and was like, I want to do all these houses.

[00:37:09] Crystal: Well, like we only qualified for 300, 000, which is less than we qualified for when we owned a home a few years ago, but because of interest rates and mortgage rules and changing or whatever, and I’m like, what can we even like get, like, how is this? But again, I was like, wait, we’ll be guided to the right spot, to the right house, to the right situation.

[00:37:26] Crystal: Um, and sure enough, we found this beautiful, amazing place in this cute little town where it’s full of homeschoolers and just like, you know, Cute little kids and it’ll be so fun. But I think that, um, it is that belief of like, everything will work out how it needs and I can just trust and just like lean into that.

[00:37:44] Crystal: And I’m not always in that energy, but it’s just noticing when I’m not and shifting back into it. And, um, And just getting to know yourself more, like, for me, knowing that I do need a lot of different things. Knowing that I need it to be fun or I’m not [00:38:00] going to do it. Um, I recently was pursuing an ADHD diagnosis and one of the things they mentioned was that people with ADHD have really low dopamine.

[00:38:09] Jamie: Yeah. 

[00:38:09] Crystal: And, um, um, dopamine is like the expectation drug. So, like, when you You know, when you go, I was just in Las Vegas and when you go do the slot machines, everybody, like it’s, you get dopamine from the expectation that you might win, not from the actual win. Right. And so 

[00:38:25] Jamie: you need to keep going. 

[00:38:27] Crystal: Yes. And I just thought about like, that makes so much sense, sense with my life.

[00:38:31] Crystal: Like I feel lit up when I’m expecting something big when I’m like, so when I decided to manifest, um, this house, I didn’t manifest this house. I manifested five houses. And whenever someone was said, what are you going to do next? I would say, we’re going to buy five houses. And my husband would just laugh and he’s like, that’s impossible.

[00:38:48] Crystal: We’re only going to qualify for one mortgage. And I’m like, I don’t know how it’s going to work, but we’re going to manifest five houses. And that lights me up. 

[00:38:55] Jamie: Yeah. And 

[00:38:56] Crystal: my manifestation, my current intention for my business is to manifest a hundred [00:39:00] K and at one point it was 50 K, but then that sounded more stale and then I went to a hundred K I’m not making anywhere near that money, but that amount of money makes me feel excited.

[00:39:10] Crystal: And makes me feel energized because I’m like, whoa, wouldn’t that be cool? And so I’m a big proponent of like giving yourself a really wild intention. That’s like, doesn’t seem realistic at all. Like the more unrealistic, I think the better 

[00:39:25] Jamie: for 

[00:39:25] Crystal: me at least, because. It lights me up so much that it puts me in the right state of mind.

[00:39:29] Crystal: I’m still manifesting five houses. I’m already looking at like what we’re going to do next when I’m done. This one will be finished renovating in like a month. And my husband’s like the bank’s not just going to give us more money in a month. And I’m like, you have no idea. It is going to work out. 

[00:39:45] Jamie: It’s so done.

[00:39:46] Jamie: It’s so done. And that’s already done. It’s like where did this desire even come from? Who knows? It came from the universe. I can’t like, you are meant to have this for a reason. If something keeps coming like that, like I want multiple houses, I want to renovate, [00:40:00] I want to do something with housing. It’s meant for you to have, it’s done.

[00:40:05] Jamie: It’s just, if you just got to follow the next, you’re like, let’s start with one and then we’ll get the next one. And I have literally zero doubt that we’ll be talking in the near future. And you’ll be like, Jamie, I manifested my five houses. 

[00:40:15] Crystal: Totally. Like our renovation, like my budget for my renovation is like 30 K.

[00:40:22] Crystal: Like I’m going to spend between 30 and 40 K and I’m making it. So beautiful. Like it literally is going to look like a show home once you go through it. And I have no doubt that it will increase in value by like several hundreds of thousands of dollars. And I’m like, well, then I’ll just go get another one with that money.

[00:40:37] Crystal: Like, I’m just so like, it’ll like, it just feels so possible. So for me, it’s been interesting to see that part of my business that I don’t view as part of my business. Then going back to like, I’m pitching this new, not this new, but I’m pitching a different theme of a retreat. And my brain was going back to like logical stuck energy.

[00:40:55] Crystal: This is only like a week ago. I’m like trying to figure out the numbers and how many people do I need and how am I going [00:41:00] to figure it out? And what kind of ads am I going to run? And then I was like, wait a second. I’m in that energy again. I don’t do numbers. Like I don’t try to figure out things logically.

[00:41:10] Crystal: And as soon as I was able to, I felt the energetic shift. I like chatted with a friend and I basically told her, I need you to coach me real quick. And basically just like not believe any of the things I’m going to tell you and help me like, she’s not a coach and help me understand this. And within 20 minutes, I felt the shift.

[00:41:28] Crystal: I cried on the phone. I was like, Kim, good. And I already felt like I was like, yep, I’m into my next energy. And, um, it’s just that it’s just remembering that. And I don’t know why it’s so easy for me when it comes to houses. It’s so much harder to remember in marketing my coaching practice, but 

[00:41:45] Jamie: there’s a lot more conditioning.

[00:41:47] Jamie: I think the areas of our lives where there’s a lot of noise and conditioning and people telling us. Processes and steps and how to do it. And the more that we’re following that kind of [00:42:00] stuff, probably with parenting, I’m not a parent, but I’m guessing there’s so much on like how to parent out there. So there’s a lot of deconditioning that you have to do to figure out your way of parenting.

[00:42:09] Jamie: And I think it’s the same with business versus houses, unless you’re taking all these courses on how to renovate houses and you know, all that stuff. You don’t have conditioning there. So you can just trust your intuition more. But if we’re following a million strategies and coaches and have gone through many programs and people who have told us what to do, our brains consumed with this as a way.

[00:42:31] Jamie: So we just have to pull that apart and think, what do I actually want? And I just think it takes a little bit more work. I’m the same way. So that is 

[00:42:38] Crystal: so true because I’m like, I just knew immediately, like what colors I wanted with this. And then as I chatted with an interior designer and she thought she was going to plan the whole thing.

[00:42:46] Crystal: And I’m like, no, no, no, I have a plan in my mind. And I listed off all these things. And she was like, those are all the things that are coming to be in the, like, what’s like fancy now, kind of, I don’t even know what it’s called, like what’s fashionable. And I didn’t ask, I didn’t look around. I didn’t even [00:43:00] look on Pinterest.

[00:43:00] Crystal: I, this was before I even created a Pinterest board in my mind. I already knew exactly what I wanted it to look like. But you’re right. I have no conditioning. Like I don’t, there is nobody that’s told me like, this is what you do for a house. I’m just like, I’m going to knock out this wall. And someone’s like, Oh, that’s a, that’s a load bearing wall.

[00:43:17] Crystal: And I’m like, okay, well we’ll figure it out. I’m sure you can still knock it out. Tell me how I have to do it. Like this is the wall that needs to be knocked out. And it’s been that way the whole time. And it’s, but, but you’re right. Within marketing, I’ve spent years learning and growing since I certified in like 2020.

[00:43:33] Crystal: And, um, And same with parenting and same with schooling. Like a lot of that, I had to do a lot of deconditioning, a ton around parenting, a ton around education and how learning actually happens. Um, so I, I guess if you’re starting out your business, like don’t listen to any marketing advice out there at all.

[00:43:52] Jamie: That’s what I always say. Practice under thinking, right? We spend way too much time overthinking. If you let yourself under think and just like make decisions, [00:44:00] go for it. You’re going to be so much more successful. It will just So I love all of this and Crystal, you have to share with the audience. Cause everybody’s going to love you.

[00:44:11] Jamie: Um, where can they find you? And also if someone’s interested in working with you, what might that look like? 

[00:44:18] Crystal: Okay. That’s a good question. It depends on the day, I guess, but, um, I, uh, run women’s retreats. They’re reparenting inner child work. retreats for women. Um, and I have another one coming up in September.

[00:44:31] Crystal: I do couples coaching and individual coaching, both one on one and I have some groups. I have an intuitive, uh, coaching group going on. Um, and everything’s on my website at coachcrystal. ca. And it should make sense there because my husband built that, not me, so it will make more sense. But my two favorite places to hang out when I’m not on an Instagram break are the parenting coach, the dot parenting coach, um, and I also have the intuitive coach [00:45:00] there.

[00:45:00] Crystal: So the underscore intuitive coach. Um, and And then I have a, um, podcast, so you can come check out my parenting coach podcast and yeah, DM me on Instagram. I will answer all your questions. I’m sure people are listening and are like, wowed by the crazy travel story that I told and how I didn’t plan anything.

[00:45:21] Crystal: And if you want to ask more specific questions about that, I love talking about travel. So I will give you all the free advice in DMs that you want about travel. Um, and I will say it was worth it, but it was really, really hard. And unless you feel a deep, intrinsic desire to travel around the world. Don’t do it!

[00:45:39] Crystal: Unless it really feels intuitively like it’s meant for you. I know that it was meant for me and I know I was supposed to do it, but it was, it was much harder than I, um, could have ever anticipated. It was like when you really feel like you should hike a mountain and then you like, I, we hike mountains a lot and whenever I’m halfway, I’m like, why did I decide to do this?

[00:45:58] Crystal: This was terrible. Why 

[00:45:59] Jamie: in the world did I have [00:46:00] this desire? 

[00:46:01] Crystal: Yes. And then I get to the top and I’m like, oh my goodness, this was so. So worth it and you feel so good about yourself that you like accomplish this hard thing. When I was flying from Tokyo to LA, I got dropped off at the airport in Tokyo and my friend was there and she gave me a hug and she was like, you did it.

[00:46:15] Crystal: And I just burst into tears cause I was like, I just felt like I had summited this mountain that was actually so much harder than I thought. Thought it was going to be this hike, this world around hike that I thought that was a lot harder. So anyways, um, come to me, chat about all the things and, um, and manifest your way to business into it, your way to business.

[00:46:35] Crystal: And don’t listen to so many marketing opinions. You’ll be fine. 

[00:46:40] Jamie: I’m super excited because I asked crystal to come into the money manifestation movement, which you were already a client have already gone through the process. You understand the ins and outs of that manifestation process, but I wanted to invite you in because you specialize in hypnosis, hypnotherapy.

[00:46:56] Jamie: You have a lot of practice around [00:47:00] intuition, and I wanted you to come and Lead the group through that. And next month we’re folk. Well, by the time this comes out, it’ll be in August. Right? So in August we’re focused on big money. So for people who have a deep desire to create big money, but feel like, Oh, maybe it’s not for me.

[00:47:18] Jamie: I was like, Crystal, can you come and do some hypnosis on this and really help people like. If it’s a true desire for you, like how to really dive into that. So I’m so excited for you to come in there too. 

[00:47:30] Crystal: I can’t even tell you how much hypnotherapy has changed my life. And like clients will come to me afterwards and be like, I’ve been dealing with this for years, like since I was a child or like, this is something that I’ve never thought would shift that shifts in like one session.

[00:47:44] Crystal: So I cannot even wait. I feel like it aligns so well with big money and like what’s blocking us from big money. And. Anyway, so come, come join the movement before then. Join our hypnotherapy call. It’ll be 

[00:47:56] Jamie: Thank you, Crystal. You’re such an inspiration. You’re such a [00:48:00] light. It’s so fun to have you on. So thanks for sharing your story and everyone go follow Crystal.

[00:48:05] Jamie: Thank you.