How Becky Manifested $20K in One Week (without social media!)

[00:00:00] Jamie: All right, y’all. You are in for another treat. We have the amazing Becky Gardner here, who is a manifestation queen. And that’s why I wanted to have her on the podcast. In fact, what’s super fun about Becky is that she really just found manifestation last year, but this woman knows how to manifest. So she’s manifested so many awesome things.

[00:00:24] Things since we met and started working together. And I said, Becky, I have to have you on the podcast. Not only do I want to pick your brain and find out what your process is and what works for you, but I just love having all the listeners here. So Becky is a coach. For women with anxiety and depression, and I’d love to have you share a little bit more about what you do and who you help before we dive into all the manifestation goodness.

[00:00:53] Becky: Yeah, you bet. I’m so excited to be here. I love that I’m a manifestation queen. I’m going to totally own that. Oh [00:01:00] my gosh, that’s the best. Yeah. So I love helping women. I love helping women, um, really to embrace themselves, live a life without reservation and to live unapologetically. That’s like my mission.

[00:01:15] I want to help women like ditch that self judgment, ditch the, the inner critic that causes so much. So much anxiety and depression in our lives. It’s something I lived with for 30 plus years and learning how to just really love myself unconditionally unapologetically has freed me from so much anxiety and depression in my life and, um, open me up to more manifestation as well.

[00:01:39] I mean, like when you’re feeling great, so that’s what I love to do is just help my clients just love themselves, live a life free of that like negative voice. That’s constantly in their heads. 

[00:01:50] Jamie: Oh my gosh, and I want to get into your story and how you came about doing this work, also how you freed yourself, so we will definitely dive [00:02:00] into that in this episode because I think that’s going to be helpful for so many people.

[00:02:04] Um, but first we’ll dive into the manifestation, then we’ll dive into that. Perfect. So yeah, we met not even a year ago, right? Last year in like April I was manifest. It’s 

[00:02:17] Becky: on. Was it? Yeah, it was in March. It was a March. Cause that’s when I started my master coach training project. And that’s when you popped into my life.

[00:02:24] Oh my 

[00:02:25] Jamie: gosh, that’s wild. It feels like so much longer to me. That is amazing what can happen in a year. Yeah, for sure. So yeah, let’s go back to that. Like, when you did find me back in March, you were doing master coach training. What was it? Did, had you ever, youth manifestation before? Were you intrigued by it?

[00:02:46] Where were you at at that point?

[00:02:50] Becky: I, you know, I had like a little bit, my dad had taught me a little bit about it. He had called it like success visualization. Like if you visualize something and you’re going to bring it [00:03:00] into your life. And he kind of taught me a little method and mostly I was annoyed by it. Like mostly I was like, I don’t know what this success visualization thing is.

[00:03:09] Um, but when I came across it, it just, it felt so good and so aligned with, um, the part of me that actually operates already from a lot of like, faith and belief. 

[00:03:24] Jamie: Cool. So what was it that sparked your interest back last year? 

[00:03:29] Becky: Well, so I was doing my master coach training project, right? And that project was to earn, uh, create $50,000 in my business in three months.

[00:03:38] And like, we gotta keep in mind, I had no social media. No platform. I had not even told anybody that I was a life coach at this point. Oh my gosh. And they did that. I did it to myself, technically. So I had finished life coach training, right? Like LCS, I’d finished that. And then just [00:04:00] gone straight into like master coach training.

[00:04:02] So we got to, right. We got to pick our, well, it’s like what you did too, right? 

[00:04:07] Jamie: About a year later. Okay. Rare ones. I was like, how did they let me in? Right. Yeah. 

[00:04:15] Becky: So I went in and, um, I, I had chosen to create 30, 000 in my business, which felt like insane. They did up it to 50, 000, but I have to say right before I got the note that it was up to 50, 000, I upped it in my head and I wrote it down on a piece of paper and then I read it and they said 50, 000.

[00:04:33] And I was like, wow. Perfect. We’re in. I’m doing it. I’m doing it. And then I got into the work of trying to do that, right? Getting into like, Oh, you got to post a whole bunch. And I don’t even know what funnels are. And like all these words and terms, I don’t even know. And it felt awful. Like it felt bad. And I was like, well, I don’t have social media.

[00:04:52] I don’t have a platform. I don’t have these things. There’s no way I’m going to do this. And then enter Jamie Furman. glowing Jamie [00:05:00] Berman into my life. I knew you from, um, from life coach school. I’d, I’d watched you coach a couple of times on there and I already knew I wanted to work with you at that point, but you had started doing the manifest a thon that week.

[00:05:12] And I was like, I’m all in, I’m going to check out what this manifesting thing is, learn about it. And everything that you spoke about just aligned so much with Jamie Berman. Um, what I already believed in my own faith, like when you talk about the universe, I was like, oh, that’s God to me. Like when you talk about like the gift or the law of giving and receiving, I was like, oh, that’s tithing to me.

[00:05:34] Like in my faith, like we pay a tithing and then we are like, we get blessed for it. You know, we re we are like, well, I’ll have blessings if I give my money. Right. So, so many things just like lined up for me that way. And it was, it felt like home. It felt like aligned. And it was like, I can do this. I don’t want to build funnels.

[00:05:53] I don’t want to do social media. I can sit down and write down out my ideal scenario all day long. [00:06:00] I can meditate. Like that felt like prayer to me. It felt really good. Gosh, that’s 

[00:06:05] Jamie: amazing. And that’s one thing about manifestation is it really is universal and spiritual laws. So it, it does. And I think like Yeah.

[00:06:13] A lot of people say, well, I am, you know, religious or I have this background and this faith, will that align or, and I’m like, no, no, no. Like you can actually use that or either it’s, you can use that faith, um, in manifestation and it really works for all faiths, which is so cool. So I love that, that you had that as the foundation and then it just felt like it aligned and it sounds like infusing that into your business just felt right.

[00:06:39] Right. 

[00:06:40] Becky: Yes. It was like natural. And I think just like when you’re coming from a faith background, stepping into manifestation, like it just compounds the whole thing. It just amplifies the whole, like, it just made so much 

[00:06:51] Jamie: sense. And then what happened when you started implementing the teachings? 

[00:06:59] Becky: Oh, I made [00:07:00] 20, 000 in one week, right?

[00:07:04] By the end of manifest a thon, I had two clients. who were both at 10, 000 a piece and I had, yeah, and I was partially into my goal. 

[00:07:14] Jamie: I remember seeing that testimonially, testimonial. I’m like, I, I’m just like, so excited. It was amazing. It’s just, it’s incredible. And it’s like, how fun. Fun to have offer a free event.

[00:07:28] This was like just the free event that I offered. And for you to be able to manifest 20, 000 in a week from, right. It was like, Oh my gosh, I loved it so much. And then I know you joined the movement after that. Yes. 

[00:07:42] Becky: When I have to put this plug into that, neither of those clients came from social media or marketing or funnels or anything purely organic people in my life.

[00:07:53] Jamie: Okay. So let me ask you this, what shift happened during that week of manifestathon that [00:08:00] allowed you to call that in that 20, 000 to 10 K clients. And this is Becky as a new coach. Like it’s not like, like you said, you had a ton of experience. You were just diving into business. So what shift happened? Do you remember what 

[00:08:15] Becky: happened during that?

[00:08:16] I know I’m trying to tap into that. I’m trying to tap into that. Um, it was like, when I take my mind back there, it was this light and energy and full belief. Like when I would sit and just kind of spend time in visualization, just like visualizing that this is possible. Like it’s not only possible, like this is inevitable.

[00:08:41] Like there was just so much belief that, that I could do this and that not just by myself. But, you know, for me, it’s like, I can create this with God. Like, I can create this with the universe, right? The whole thing, like, together. 

[00:08:54] Jamie: Yes. Right? Stepping into 

[00:08:55] belief. 

[00:08:56] Becky: Oh, my gosh. Yeah. It’s just so much stepping into belief.

[00:08:58] And it felt [00:09:00] energetic, and it felt, um, almost like a rush, like, as I’m thinking about it. Like a, a rush. I don’t know. I just feel like light and glowing when I think about it. 

[00:09:08] Jamie: My gosh, I love that. And sometimes it isn’t always even about the, what did you do during that week? Right. Sometimes it’s like hard to think back.

[00:09:15] I don’t know what I did, but simply sometimes just by showing up. In a container like that, which I set my containers when I say container, I mean, whether that’s a free live event or whether that is one of my paid offers, um, or a retreat, I set it up with a lot of intention behind it. So it has an energy in and of itself.

[00:09:35] So I find that when people come in, they don’t even know what it is. They’re just like, I took on this energy, right. Or itself kind of just like. Once I started listening to it, it just changed me. Right. So it’s not always that you have to do something. Um, sometimes it’s just being in that little vortex of energy with the intention of really, I want to do this and I want to, you know what I mean?

[00:09:56] And like stepping into that belief and it just puts [00:10:00] you into alignment. So, um, yeah, it’s so cool. 

[00:10:04] Becky: I love that. Anytime I’ve joined like one of your like manifest a thon or like any of the workshops that you’re doing, you can fill that throughout like the whole group, all that combined energy. And as you’re watching everyone like manifest and bring it in, you’re like, Oh, it just builds your belief.

[00:10:19] Like they, if they can do it, I can do it. If they can do it, I can do it. I love 

[00:10:22] Jamie: that. And what an empowering. Right. And I want to offer this to everyone. Cause you’re saying as if just like, that’s how everyone thinks. But I think that is an intentional choice to think that way, to think if they can do it, I can do it.

[00:10:38] Because I know a lot of people get stuck in jealousy, right. Or they look and they compare and they’re like, wait a minute, they’re doing it. There’s something wrong with me. Versus I love this thought that you’re choosing Becky, which is if they can do it, I can do it. And it’s like, imagine if we all took that on in business all the time or in any container that we were in, how much more empowered we would [00:11:00] feel.

[00:11:00] Right. It’s like, that’s something that I started doing too. Cause I realized jealousy is always just, you know, and I’m not saying that’s ever, that’s what came for you, but whenever somebody experiences jealousy, what they’re actually seeing is that person has something Within themselves that they’re embodying that I am not embodying.

[00:11:19] Right. So like, I love that bridge of like, if they can do it, I can do it. If they’re tapping into it. So can I, that’s so good. It’s 

[00:11:27] Becky: and it’s so true. And I always think like, whenever, if you feel jealous, like get inspired instead, like to me, if I’m like, I’m jealous, I’m like, Oh, no, no, wait, let’s get inspired.

[00:11:37] Right. Yeah. And I learned that as like a young musician because I, I played the piano and grew up and did a lot of competitions. And instead of going to like jealousy, like, Oh, there’s so much better or they can do it. I’ll never be able to do it. It was like, Oh no, I’m going to do that. I’m going to do that.

[00:11:50] I’m going to make that happen. I’m going to work for that. Like, I want that. 

[00:11:53] Jamie: That must be where that came from then. Yeah. I think it is. And you just dropped it as if it, but I’m like, [00:12:00] that’s gold right there. Everybody take that shot. Okay. So I want to hear, because you did move from manifest it’s on into, you came into the money manifestation movement.

[00:12:11] What happened for you as you went on, as you continued your master coach project, as you continue doing the work and there, what, what happened when 

[00:12:21] Becky: unfolded? Yeah. So I’ll tell you what I noticed. So in master coach training, they, they ask us to do workshops, we have like projects we’ve got to do each month and, and so, you know, there were things that I put out like on social media and I had to, you know, get people to come in.

[00:12:38] I had to try and do all this different stuff. So there was a lot of action taking. Um, it just never felt very good to me, but I loved spending my time, um, Writing out my ideal scenario. Like what’s this going to look like? I loved going to my future self and like I wrote out what my future self is doing in three years.

[00:12:57] I wrote out what she was doing in one year and I love [00:13:00] making it really specific. Like what’s my husband doing? How old are my kids? What are they into at that point? You know, and I would even put in like how much money I was making, how much money he was making, how he’d started his own business. How he could go out and ride dirt bikes as much as he wanted to.

[00:13:14] And I was okay with it because at the time I was not okay with it. You don’t want him riding dirt bikes, but he’s out on a snow bike today and I’m happy for him. So it’s good. It manifested it. Right. And so I, and I loved like spending time just visualizing that was, like I said, that’s where home felt like to me.

[00:13:32] Like it was, It’s easy for me to step into faith and belief that this is all possible, that I could see it, and if I can feel it in my body, then I can create it, right? 

[00:13:45] Jamie: The action part was 

[00:13:46] Becky: always harder for me, and what I found was amazing is none of my clients actually came through. Um, that type of action, like the workshops, the, you know, posting on social media, I had one [00:14:00] client that came from social media, one client.

[00:14:02] Yeah. Everyone else was organic. And then I was, um, I did get sort of certified through Jody Moore’s, um, advanced certification. And so I was listed on her website as a coach there. Most of the people would come through that funnel, that channel there, not funnel, but channel. But the more I spend time in the belief, I even like wrote out a check.

[00:14:23] For 75, 000 and put it like. Up on my wall. I was like, I’m gonna stare at that every time I coach. Like there it is, you know, and just really stepping into that belief that like people need this. I think my mantra the whole time is that coaching saves lives. Wow. Coaching saves lives a hundred percent. It saves lives, especially like the people that I work with.

[00:14:44] It saves lives, which so many coaches work 

[00:14:47] Jamie: with, right? Like a hundred percent. Oh yeah. A hundred percent. I think all in all. Yeah. Coaching does save lives. Yes. It’s an empowering thought, right? Yeah. Oh my gosh. So when you say they came [00:15:00] organically, what do you mean by that? So, um, other than the Jody, maybe that’s, that’s a piece of it, right?

[00:15:07] You had it. 

[00:15:07] Becky: Yeah. So I run, I run a music studio and I’ve been doing it for 12 years. So one of the people that were in there is now my client, right? My chiropractor is my client. Like just people I talk to and like, Let them know. And I think I landed on this place at some point where I realized that the more I work on myself, the more I believe in myself, the more I transform myself, the more I glow.

[00:15:30] And the more I glow, the more people are attracted to me. 

[00:15:35] Jamie: So it’s just like, you’re, you’re magnetizing that. Right? It’s true. And what’s so fascinating about it is that I think when you really do it in that way, where you do the foundational work first. Where you really get clear on the intention, right?

[00:15:54] You get clear on the vision, you get clear on the desire, you, you get just, you [00:16:00] dive in and get crystal clarity and write it out, what it does, right? It’s like our subconscious memorizes. Is that or the universe or God, right? It’s like, yeah, not into the universe. And so many people miss that step. So many of us just dive into action, dive into action, right.

[00:16:16] Which I mean, you know, and like you said, you tried that initially, but it wasn’t really working and it didn’t feel good. So you came back to. Setting that intention first and doing the ideal scenarios and going to the future self and getting clear on what that is. And what’s so interesting is I think when we do that, it’s like we then, it’s like we just start to get, for me at least, when I have a vision, then I get excited about that vision, right?

[00:16:45] And I start to like really feel into that vision. And then I naturally take action from it. It’s not anything that’s like, Forced, right? Which is what it sounds like you did. I mean, there are actions that you took, but it wasn’t anything that you forced. [00:17:00] You did take action by, you know, getting certified through Jodi and putting your name up there.

[00:17:04] That is an action that you took, or I’m sure you had to tell people what you did even organically. Right. But like you said, because you were in such a state of being clear on where you were going and who you were, and even that thought coaching saves lives. From that thought, I’m sure it just came out of you so naturally that it didn’t feel like you were quote unquote, networking or anything like that.

[00:17:27] Right. 

[00:17:28] Becky: So true. 

[00:17:29] Jamie: Yeah. Natural. It feels like I didn’t take any action, but really you took actions, but that just felt very natural from the vision is what it sounds like to me. Would you say that’s accurate? 

[00:17:40] Becky: I would say it’s really accurate. I think when it becomes, um, When you find that belief and that faith, like on a cellular level, cellular, I can’t say that word, cellular level, and it’s just like in your bones, right?

[00:17:54] It becomes very, very natural. So you’re right. Like when you said the word networking, I’m like, I just don’t even [00:18:00] relate to that word. Or any of that. I just like, I’m going to show up and I’m going to be me. And I’m going to share my story. I’m going to share like how I’ve changed, how I’ve transformed, not from a place of graspiness or trying to get a client.

[00:18:14] Like I have a very firm boundary with myself and I’m like, if I’m graspy at all, I let that client go. Like if I notice like a graspiness in myself, I’m like that client’s not for me. Right. I just let them go. Like, no, we’ll, we’ll find something else for you. Or if you want to come back, you can, right. But it’s always from a place of like service and love.

[00:18:32] And if I do post on online, cause occasionally I will, like on my Facebook, I do some things and I do some Facebook lives and stuff, but my rule with myself is I never do it from scarcity or like I said, graspiness. It’s always from like, I check myself. Are you in service and love? Are you in service and love?

[00:18:50] Is that where we’re coming from? Is that why you want to put this up here? Because anytime I do it, because there’s a rule that like, I’m supposed to, or you have to, or it’s required to [00:19:00] like show up so people can see you, like, it doesn’t sound good. It’s something dumb comes out of my mouth and goes on my Facebook.

[00:19:09] Jamie: And I’m like, I hate that. I hate 

[00:19:10] Becky: that it’s even on there and I push send and I 

[00:19:13] Jamie: don’t like it. Right. They could totally feel our energy. So I love that you intentionally check in and you get yourself to a place of love and service before doing. things. That is huge that people feel that energy and that’s why you filled your practice.

[00:19:30] You’re full. Yes. So good. Amazing, right? Because you’re coming from that place and it’s not graspy and that’s, that’s manifestation right there. It’s like the energy behind it is so Pure that it does. People feel that people can feel that you actually care and you actually want to help and you’re not trying to just get.

[00:19:49] So I’m not surprised that you’ve manifested all of this. 

[00:19:53] Becky: Well, and the most beautiful part is is that that part where I believe that coaching saves lives. Like I’m watching [00:20:00] that manifest now with my clients, some of my clients who were not sure that they wanted to stay on this earth, who were not sure that they were going to make it.

[00:20:07] Like I’m watching them change and choose to like, I want to live. I want to be here. I want to not feel like this. And they’re feeling better and they’re getting out of their houses and they’re doing different things. Like, you know, coming in, especially like, I don’t think I could ever not worry. I don’t think I could ever not have anxiety to now I want to write a book.

[00:20:26] Like, it’s just amazing watching that. So that’s the best part to me is like just watching them grow and change and start to live their unapologetic life. 

[00:20:36] Jamie: So good. And that’s what it’s like, that’s why I’m really passionate about helping coaches and helping them like get out of their own ways so that they can show up and do this work because you choosing that one thought, just that one thought, the coaching saves lives.

[00:20:51] Thoughts become things, right? You go out and put yourself out in the world and you do save lives. It’s incredible. Like the ripple effect of one thought of [00:21:00] you choosing that is just amazing. It gives me chills to do this work and put yourself out there and do it in your way, which I think is just so important that like.

[00:21:11] We all realize that we can do things our way. And I know for Becky, the funnels and all of the things I remember on our first time, she’s like, what are you all talking about? I don’t even know 

[00:21:20] Becky: what a funnel is. Like what happens when people keep saying funnel? Like what is this thing? I just barely learned like what you taught me like 

[00:21:28] Jamie: two weeks ago.

[00:21:29] I love you, Becky. You’re making all this money and you know, you don’t know any of the like business lingo. It’s the best ever and I love that you’ve given yourself. Permission to do it in your own way. It’s really, really incredible and it’s been awesome to witness and why I really wanted to have you on there or on here.

[00:21:49] So, okay, 2, I have 2 questions. 1 is have, did you throughout that time? I’m assuming you’ve dipped in [00:22:00] and out of belief. Of course. Typically we’re not in faith 100 percent of the time. Or in that vision 100%. Sometimes 

[00:22:05] Becky: I was in a puddle of 

[00:22:06] Jamie: the floor like crying. It’s fine. So I want to hear a little bit about that because some people are going to be like, I want to believe so hard, but why can’t I?

[00:22:12] How do you believe on a cellular level like Becky’s talking about? Right? So I’d love to hear you speak to them and what maybe you practice or how you got yourself out of the puddle or how you work through the puddle to get yourself kind of back in that place. And yeah, yeah, I guess just, we’re willing to 

[00:22:31] Becky: speak to that.

[00:22:32] Yeah. I’m just trying to like think through what my process here. Um, I just, one thing is I always know that like self doubt and fear is a sign that I’m on the right path. Yeah. So I’m just like, if I’m feeling self doubt, if I’m feeling fear, if I’m feeling that little voice in my ear, that’s like, you can’t do it.

[00:22:48] Like this, you’re going to look dumb. You’re not an expert. That’s always my thing. You’re not the expert, Becky. Like. Now I’m just like, nope, I’m not. You’re right. Saving lives anyway. It’s 

[00:22:57] Jamie: okay. 

[00:22:59] Becky: [00:23:00] Right. So a lot of that for me was, um, just like sitting and accepting those feelings. Like I’m going to go do this and I’m going to feel scared.

[00:23:09] I’m going to go do this and I’m going to feel nervous. Right. Just knowing that like, of course, I’m going to go in and out of like fear of self doubt of nervousness. I got coached like crazy on all of those things, right? That’s the part where I was talking about when I work on me, when I transform me, then I glow.

[00:23:26] So when those things came up, I would go get coached on them. So then I could manage my mind around them. Right. But just knowing that, like, I don’t have to hold my belief at a 10 in order for this to happen. Like I can bump up there during visualization. I can bump up there when I’m writing out like an ideal scenario.

[00:23:45] And then I’m going to pop back down to a two and that’s probably where I’m going to live. And then when I want to, like, when I want to feel better, I’m going to go do something so I can bring myself up to a 10 where I get in my, my body, in my [00:24:00] visualization. And then I’m just going to know I’m going to go out of belief again.

[00:24:03] And it’s okay. Like, I don’t have to constantly, like, if we’re taking this, like, you know, if I was thinking about faith or like God or something, like, I don’t have to constantly be thinking about God or believing in him to like, no, he’s there. Right. I’m just like, Oh, he’s there. Like, that’s fine. And of course, I’m just going to go up and 

[00:24:21] Jamie: down.

[00:24:22] I think people are going to be so relieved to hear this because sometimes it does sound like, you know, Oh, believing on a cellular level means I need to be there all the time. And then, you know, I know that used to be the case for me where I was like, Ah, if I’m out of belief, Then it’s not right. And so I’ve had to also learn I’m super similar to you in terms of my process, where I just make it intentional, where I do my ideal scenes.

[00:24:42] I do my manifestation practices and then I go live my day and have all the human thoughts. But as long as I keep coming back to the well. Keep coming back to the vision. I love that. Yeah. And 

[00:24:54] Becky: it doesn’t take long. I’m trying to be like five minutes a day. That’s probably what I gave it. [00:25:00] Like five, 10 minutes a day.

[00:25:01] In the beginning, I did a lot more cause I was writing a lot of stuff out, but now it’s just like, I have a process of three minutes. Like when I say my prayers, I add like a meditation onto them at the end where I like, this is my yellow book road. I always tell Jamie about, like I have this yellow brick road in my head.

[00:25:16] This is my path. I’m going to follow. I know it’s meant for me. I know I’m guided on it. I know I’m led on it and I just need to like sit and see it for three minutes a day. Sit and like listen for something to come in. Like what’s going to drop in and give me that direction. Right? And it’s literally like three minutes a day.

[00:25:33] And then on occasion, I’ll write out like a,

[00:25:39] And then I just go back to my day, 

[00:25:41] Jamie: you know, it’s so fun. It’s like, that’s your business plan. The yellow brick road is now in the soulful six figure mastermind, which is so fun. And that’s your project, right? It’s just you, which I love that you decided that as a project, it’s not like, Oh, I’m going to create X, you know, and those are great projects as [00:26:00] well.

[00:26:00] But I love that again, you let yourself do it in your own way, where you were like, this is what came in for me as a project is to, you Meditate every day and follow the yellow brick road in my business and just follow that next step and the next step. And look how it’s unfolding. 

[00:26:14] Becky: It’s so cool when I feel so right to me.

[00:26:17] I know that whenever I’m trying to force something, I am out of alignment with myself. Anytime I’ve tried to make something happen, I get lost in the frustration and the snowballing and the ruminating. And if I just wait and like, let it come in. And even if that thing that comes in is really, really hard, like one of the things that came in for me during master coach training was to go open and be public about an addiction that I had gone through.

[00:26:44] That was not easy to like post on my Facebook that like I had gone through this addiction, but it felt so in alignment with me to, to do that, to follow that yellow brick road. Right. That’s what came in. And I’m like, okay, here’s the fear. There’s the doubt. But I know that’s the next step. [00:27:00] So the faith comes in with just going like, I know that’s what I’m going to do, even though it feels terrifying.

[00:27:05] Jamie: Yeah. So that was actually the second question that I wanted to ask you is, what is it that you That allows you to feel safe doing things in your own way and not get, I mean, I’m sure there’s a part of you that sometimes questions, do I need to be doing this? Or, you know, I, I mean, I don’t know, maybe not, but like, but even if that does come up, it seems like you still.

[00:27:32] Let yourself do it in your own way. You still give yourself permission to like, even with your business in your own way and for it to grow in the way that you want it to, and for you to have the number of clients, like I’ve witnessed you just really letting yourself be like, what is it that actually I want, not what is the vision of other coaches doing?

[00:27:51] You’ve let yourself do it in your own way. What create has created like the safety within you to feel okay, doing that and not being on social media all the [00:28:00] time and not. Posting when you feel like you have to and all that stuff. 

[00:28:04] Becky: I don’t feel safe doing it the other way. Oh, like right. The second that you said that, I was like, oh, I know the answer to that.

[00:28:12] Like, I don’t feel safe doing it. Not my way. Like I trust myself way more than I trust anyone else. And I love to learn from all the experts and all the people out there. But if I’m really into like my. My intuition and my gut, if my gut squirms and like, it’s a no, then it’s a no. Like I don’t feel in alignment that way.

[00:28:36] Yeah. Yeah. 

[00:28:37] Jamie: I’ve loved that. That’s what’s what came up for me. I was like, 

[00:28:41] Becky: Ooh, I just don’t feel 

[00:28:41] Jamie: safe that way. Also an opportunity to own that. So much that like your way works and it’s not the same as everyone out. Like we all have our own way, but it works because I know in the past, like through our coaching, you’ve said like, Oh, Jamie, but I’m not an action taker.

[00:28:59] I’m not like you. Cause [00:29:00] I’m the opposite where like, if I’m in fear or something, or if I’m in scarcity, I’m like action, action, action. I like, that’s what my brain goes to. And I have to come back to the vision and pull myself back to the vision. And you feel like, but that’s not me. But I also think that’s your superpower.

[00:29:16] Becky: Yeah, I love that. I’m going to take that. Yeah. 

[00:29:19] Jamie: Really? I mean, it’s awesome. So it feels really good to me. Yeah. Are you willing to share like what you’ve created through? The time you’ve been in the movement and then in the mastermind in terms of your business. 

[00:29:32] Becky: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, um, my project for master coach training was to earn the 50, 000.

[00:29:38] And the coolest part about it is I did it like an hour and a half before our last class. I’m not even kidding. 

[00:29:46] Jamie: That is amazing. 

[00:29:48] Becky: So I had like, I booked three, I can’t remember how it went. Like, I don’t remember details, but I had like about 70 percent of it. Um, Kind of, uh, after the manifestathon, [00:30:00] like it all happened really quickly.

[00:30:01] And then I had this dry spot where like nothing was happening. Nothing was happening. Like talk about the fear and the doubt coming up and having to like work 

[00:30:08] Jamie: with that. And the timeline was ticking, right? Yeah. The timeline’s ticking 

[00:30:12] Becky: for the project, right? Yeah. And then just kind of coming back against a belief and like, you’d fall out and I’d go on a little like tantrum for a little bit.

[00:30:22] And then I’d be like, okay, nope. We got to go back in. And I remember Um, two weeks before our last class, I just went full back in, like, Nope, I can do this. I can do this. And I think I had about 15, 000 left, 16, 000 left to, to go to meet this. And I wanted it so bad because I just wanted to prove it to myself.

[00:30:39] And then of course, like helping people, but really, I just really 

[00:30:42] Jamie: wanted to meet the goal. 

[00:30:44] Becky: We’ll just be honest. Right. But it was, Um, an hour and a half before our last class that I booked 2 clients back to back. 

[00:30:54] Jamie: It was just like boom 16 K in an hour. 

[00:30:58] Becky: Yeah, right. It was [00:31:00] amazing. Just right there. 

[00:31:02] Jamie: Done. Yes.

[00:31:03] Got on our call and I was like, whoa, yeah, that’s insane. 

[00:31:08] Becky: It was so cool. And then of course, like I love working with those clients so much. Like they’re so amazing and the progress they’ve made, but yes, it was amazing to hit my goal. 

[00:31:18] Jamie: That’s so fun. And you’ve since filled your bit, your practice. Yeah. 

[00:31:23] Becky: Since filled my practice.

[00:31:24] So I, um, I kind of went around like, what do I want to do next? What do I want to go? And going through like the, the Soulful Six figure mastermind really helped me to understand like my energy and how I work with my energy because I had done this really big push and then I was very exhausted and you coached me a lot around like my energy and how that works and how to kind of recover from that.

[00:31:49] Um, and once I kind of worked through that, then I booked a couple more clients. And then I was like full, like went back into, I love it. It’s, [00:32:00] and it’s just like really easy right now. Like, I know I have more growth and I have this goal to like, share my story with the world and to be able to help millions of women.

[00:32:09] Like I have high millions. Like I want millions, like, and I can see it, right. I can see it for myself. It’s true. Look out world. I can see it for myself. Right now is not that time. And I love just sitting in the ease of like, this is exactly where I need to be. And that’s like so much of the work that you’ve helped me do, because I was like, no, it has to be now.

[00:32:35] I was feeling that like rush and that pressure. But like working through you through the mastermind has helped me to go like, oh, no, that’s coming. It’s inevitable. I’m going to get to do that. I don’t know how that’s going to happen, but I, I’m a hundred percent positive it will. And right now I get to like, just enjoy my little kindergartner and I’m going to enjoy my son and I’m going to love on my clients like crazy.

[00:32:55] And I’m going to continue to grow myself so that I can be prepared for 

[00:32:58] Jamie: that. That [00:33:00] is so, it just feels good in my body as you share it. Yeah. One of my favorite thoughts that I’m always offering up to all my clients and everything, but it’s comes from our mutual coach. Cause we’ve both worked a lot with Bev Aaron and she has given me this thought that back in the day, whenever I would try to solve things from my mind and always feel like I had to know the next thing and the next thing, even though it wasn’t coming, you know, and my favorite thought is you’ll know when you know, you know, it’s just like it drops in, you’re going to know when that time is.

[00:33:29] To really take that next step, whatever you’re following the yellow brick road, you’re going to, and what’s so fun is that like, you know, it’s done there. And I know it’s done because I’ve heard this vision from Becky from day one, when we had our first call and I’m like, it was so clear of like. Speaking on stages, writing the book, I, I can see it.

[00:33:50] So I know it’s done. And I love that you’re so giving yourself permission to, um, let it unfold in its own timeline and in its own way and [00:34:00] trusting that again, you’ll know, when you know it’s time to take the next step towards that and really enjoying the moment of having your clients now and your kids is really beautiful.

[00:34:09] Yeah. 

[00:34:10] Becky: Well, and the gift of having you in my life. To because I have to say that, like that vision was so clear to you and it was clear to me, but I was so scared of it. And so, and I still, I still struggle with the, some of that sometimes, right. It’s like a big vision for myself. Like, can I handle it? Right.

[00:34:25] But having you constantly bring me back to that, that’s another area where it’s like, when you go into that self doubt and that scarcity and that fear, having that coach to like, bring you back and be like, Oh no, let’s go back to the leaf. Becky. Like when we’re like, 

[00:34:38] Jamie: So I don’t even know what I want in my life.

[00:34:39] I’m like, yes, we do. Becky. Yes. You don’t 

[00:34:42] Becky: remember. I know what you want. And I’m like, 

[00:34:44] Jamie: you’re right. You’re right. We’re just a little scared of it. So good. Oh my goodness. Thank you for all this gold. I love it so much. And I’d really love to shift gears a little bit and talk. more about [00:35:00] your business and if you’re open to sharing how you, a little bit of your journey, right?

[00:35:06] How you started working with women with anxiety, depression, addiction. Um, yeah. Are you open to sharing like that journey? 

[00:35:16] Becky: Yeah. Okay. Before we jump into that, I want to say something really quick. Cause it just popped into my head and I think it’s so applicable. And then I’ll, I’ll tell you a little bit about that.

[00:35:23] So there’s a book called worthy. That’s, I think it’s Jamie Kearns Lima. She wrote it. I’m just saying, if I said that correctly, but I was reading this. Kern Lima, Kern Lima. Okay. Okay. Anyway, she talks about in there that the emotions of faith, hope and belief and the emotions of like fear, doubt, anxiety.

[00:35:45] They require the same level of confidence. And I love this so much. Cause she’s like, look on the either end of the hope and belief on the either end of fear and doubt, we don’t know the outcome. So it takes just as much energy to have belief and hope [00:36:00] as it does to have fear and doubt. It takes just as much confidence to have this one as it does the other one.

[00:36:06] Cause we don’t know what the outcome is. So you might as well choose the one that’s like going to feel the best before you even get there. But it just blew my mind. Cause I was like, you’re totally right. When you’re wrapped up in fear and self doubt and anxiety over your business, like that requires a level of confidence that it’s going to go bad, but you don’t even know that, but you will manifest it if you stay there.

[00:36:30] Right. And it will just feel miserable. Even if you, Get a good outcome. Like the journey there was like really miserable. So we might as well like have the confidence coming. Like I have to have confidence in my belief and my, my faith, right. But this is going to happen. It requires the same level of energy.

[00:36:49] So I just love that so much. I wanted to share that. And it’s 

[00:36:51] Jamie: just a choice. It really is. Yeah. Just a choice. That’s so powerful. So good. I got to read that book. I’ve been listening to interviews, [00:37:00] um, of her talking about that book. She’s been all over it. You’ve been talking about it and I’m like, yeah, yeah.

[00:37:08] So we’ll put it in the show notes for everyone. Okay. Yeah. 

[00:37:11] Becky: All right. So you were asking me just a little bit of my journey. Yeah. So, um, just real quick, I’ll give you the fast version. Um, So I, I started having like, anxiety and depression when I was about 11, um, developed an eating disorder and it was, it was really bad.

[00:37:26] Like, I went into residential treatment when I was 19, the depression got so bad that I was not showering, not getting out of bed, like, not taking care of myself at all. And I’d say after like about 14 years, I just decided like, I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. Right? Like, I was like, okay, I’m still here.

[00:37:47] Like, I just want to feel better. And so I went on a journey of reading a lot of self help books and, um, I got my degree in family and human development so I could study psychology a lot. I worked in [00:38:00] residential treatment and I worked at the psych unit with little kids to just. Continued like to work on myself.

[00:38:05] I did, even though I was struggling and it was so dark and it was so hard. Um, when I could get glimpses out of that, I knew that there was more for my life. I knew that I was meant for more. I knew that I could do better. Right? Like I just, I just held onto that so hard. Um, by the time I was about 26, I’d worked through a lot of that and I was feeling a lot better.

[00:38:29] And then I ended up getting a back surgery. I couldn’t walk for like about seven months. Yeah, it’s like crawling on the ground. It was really bad. And during that time, I got addicted to Percocet. And for the next 14 years after that, I spent just going in and out of like addiction with Percocet going on and off the pills, um, trying to quit getting stuck back on them again.

[00:38:53] And really it was coaching for me that saved my life. That’s why I say coaching saves lives because it’s [00:39:00] saved 100 percent saved mine. I was at the bottom of the barrel. Like I don’t, I was afraid my, at the time she was two, I was afraid my two year old was going to find me like OD’d on the couch. It had just gotten so bad.

[00:39:12] And, um, my sister referred me to coaching and I was like, I don’t know what this is. This is so stupid. It sounds like cognitive behavioral therapy. I’ve done that, but I gave it a listen. It was with Jodi Moore and that moment. It’s changed my life forever. I tell people all the time that I made more progress in nine months of coaching that I did in all the years of therapy, outpatient, inpatient, residential treatment.

[00:39:37] Like, and I, I love therapy. Like I love therapists. I’m a huge fan. Coaching was just the right tool for me. It was the tool that empowered me in the way that I could work with my mind and the way that. It saved my life. 

[00:39:52] Jamie: Yeah. 

[00:39:53] Becky: So I just love giving that gift back to other people. That’s like my whole mission is like, I just want to give this gift that was given [00:40:00] to me back to other people.

[00:40:02] Like you can go through really horrible, hard, traumatic things. And you can have a life full of self loathing and self hate and you can totally turn it around, have an amazing life, feel happy, feel fulfilled, go and do what you want, live unapologetically, like all of it. You can learn to love yourself so easily.

[00:40:24] Deeply, even though you’ve may have spent 30 years telling yourself how horrible you are. Like, I fully believe that because I’ve done it and I’ve watched my clients do it. 

[00:40:33] Jamie: What was it about coaching that was different 

[00:40:38] Becky: for you?

[00:40:42] That’s such a good question. What was different about that? Um,

[00:40:48] It was just such a mind shift to look at things so differently. I always knew my thoughts affected my feelings. Like I knew that from cognitive behavioral therapy, but to be able [00:41:00] to like, um, look at things that I thought were facts, right? Like somebody would say, um, once you’ve had an eating disorder for 10 years, you’ll always have an eating disorder.

[00:41:08] The longer you have your eating disorder, the more likely it is to stay right. Or doctors would tell me like, you’ve had this so you’ll never get better. Yeah. Once an addict, always an addict. But then to come into coaching and having a coach go, like, I don’t think that’s serving you, but to have a coach to be like, are you sure you want to call yourself that?

[00:41:26] Like, how is that showing up in your life? And I was like, this is not a fact, right? Like it just blew my mind. And also to go into coaching and be able to talk about things that were kind of hard and not have them pathologize it or make it a disorder or a, Ooh, we need to go visit your past, but just go like, all right, what are we doing moving forward?

[00:41:47] Yeah, like that just works so well for me. Gosh, 

[00:41:50] Jamie: that’s incredible. And what’s actually coming to me, it’s just seeing the tie of like that work, but also how that I imagine impacts [00:42:00] your work that you’re doing now as you grow your business. Right. And like you said, how it impacts even like manifestation, because I see you and witness you just being so coachable.

[00:42:10] It’s like, you know, You’re willing to challenge identities that might quote unquote feel real or thoughts about yourself that feel quote unquote real, but you’re like willing to change them and my hunches, it really goes back to the work that you did changing those thoughts that even probably like doctors have told you.

[00:42:28] And like, right, like willing to change those kinds of identities. It’s like, if you can do that, 

[00:42:34] Becky: yeah, that’s true. 

[00:42:35] Jamie: Right. Then yeah. Unstoppable. There we go. I love it. I’ll take that. Yeah, that’s, 

[00:42:42] Becky: that’s 

[00:42:43] Jamie: really awesome. Oh my gosh. Thank you for sharing. It’s just, it’s so inspiring to hear this. And I think for others who are, you know, going through, you know, Similar, I mean, anybody who’s going through, you know, it’s just like, it gives so much hope and [00:43:00] also a direction of what, what could be helpful.

[00:43:03] Yeah. So I’m curious, um, how can people like find you, potentially work with you or get on your wait list? Yes! She’s a killer coach. She’s a master coach and a killer coach. And it’s like, I think because of all this work that you’ve done yourself, it just makes you such a powerful coach. 

[00:43:25] Becky: Thank you. I appreciate that so much.

[00:43:27] Um, yeah. So you can find me at Becky Garner, it’s G A R N E R, um, beckygarnercoaching. com. I always have to specify because people want to put a D in there. There’s no D. So beckygarnercoaching. com. It’s my website. And you’ll see, it’s really simple. I do business my own way. It has two pages. There’s no funnels.

[00:43:47] At one point I even put on there, like, look, I could just give you all these words to read, but I’m not going to do that. Cause I don’t want to. I was 

[00:43:56] Jamie: like, so just click here. That’s all you really [00:44:00] need. That’s all you really need. It has two pages. Right. Which actually I love more because I hate reading long sales pages.

[00:44:07] So I’m like, give me to the point. Give me 

[00:44:10] Becky: to the point. Yep. So I’ve got a wait list on there. Um, and then I’m going to be doing some things coming up soon, but if you want, I have a little freebie that I just made that I’m so excited about. So you can go to Becky Garner coaching. com forward slash ditch 

[00:44:24] Jamie: self judgment.

[00:44:25] Okay. We’ll put that in the show notes. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. 

[00:44:27] Becky: And you can go get like my four favorite ways that I, um, work on like ditching that self judgment, that piece of you that just. Constantly keeps you stuck and holds you back even in business. I watch it so much with other coaches, how much they judge themselves and they hold themselves back.

[00:44:42] Jamie: Yes. Time to stop. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Amazing. God. Thank you so much, Maggie. Thank you for having me. Oh my God. It’s so fun. I love these conversations. It’s just the best. You shared so much gold. I can’t wait for people to hear it. So I really appreciate you. [00:45:00] Just the beginning too.