Do you suffer from low self-esteem? I know I did for many years, being self-conscious about my body, about being an introvert, and playing the comparison game, feeling like I was never “good enough,” “smart enough.”
I think we all go through this to some extent, some more heavily than others. I want to share the one thing that really helped me boost my confidence, build self-trust, and develop a better relationship with myself overall. And that is…
KEEPING MY COMMITMENTS TO MYSELF
This has really been a game changer for me. I don’t know if there’s any better feeling than being proud of yourself. Following through with your commitments will invoke that feeling. On top of that, it’ll also cause you to move forward towards your goals, which builds confidence.
What I’ve found with myself, and in the work I do with my clients, is that the key to keeping commitments to yourself is not to over-commit. Before you commit, make sure that you are at least 90% sure that you will follow through with it. If you’re not 90% sure, don’t commit to it. That way, if you DO end up following through with it, AWESOME! And if not, it’s totally ok because you’re not breaking any promises to yourself.
My other piece of advice is to get your commitments out of your head and onto paper. Come up with a game plan for a successful follow-through. If it’s something you can schedule in your calendar, like “3 workouts this week,” put them in there! And if it’s something like “cutting down on Facebook time,” write down your strategy for achieving it.
At the end of the week, I always do a recap to see how I did. I write down my wins and also make note of any opportunities for improvement. After my evaluation, I write down next weeks commitments. Not only does this increase self-esteem, but you’ll probably be more productive than ever.
What would you like to commit to this week? Feel free to share in the comment box below!
With loving,
Jamie
